Life is crazy folks! New job, new city, new name, new husband, new, LOTs of excitement and change blah blah blah. Hoping things calm down soon and I can get in a new routine and in the swing of things. (Umm…at this point, I think I actually have forgotten how to work out…gah!) In the meantime…until I get my life in order, more wedding fun!
The music had started. We were lined up and ready to go. This was it. I was getting married. I could feel the emotion starting to flood my body, that and adrenaline.
My nerves started to subside and in place I felt calm. Kind of eerie calm. The kind of calm you feel when you’re getting ready to marry your best friend. I couldn’t wait to see Adam. I couldn’t wait to stand next to him. I couldn’t wait to enjoy our ceremony together. All I had to do was see him.
I saw my sister start to make her way down the aisle and I just about lost it then and there. This was real life!! She looked beautiful as she made her way down the aisle. Next up: the absolutely adorable flower girls. And right before me: our 3 year old ring bearer. To be perfectly honest I didn’t expect him to make it down the aisle. But to my shock and delight he trotted right on down the aisle with an adorable purpose in his step.
The doors were closed. Wow. Deep breath. This was it. My Dad and I made our way up to the doors. I repeated to myself, “Walk slowly. Walk slowly.” The aisle was extremely short and my Mom would hurt us if we didn’t slow down and soak up the moment.
The music began: Prelude in C by Bach. The moment I had played in my head over and over and over again was happening. The piano was calming as my eyes met Adam’s. My Dad and I started tentatively walking down the aisle. SO many people, I could feel and see them in my periphery. My eyes stayed locked on Adam’s. I wanted to soak up this moment, holding his eyes in mine. We made our way down the aisle with a smile on my face and tears in my eyes (and maybe face?). Thank goodness for that blusher veil!
Dad and I finally reached the altar. The church was incredibly silent as our pastor said her first words. My Dad lifted my veil, gave me a kiss, and placed my hand in Adam’s.
I could feel the tears streaming down my face. I was never more relieved to be facing away from the pews. We planned our ceremony meticulously, and first up had a few dear friends do a couple readings. My future sister in law read the poem “I carry your heart” by ee cummings. It was incredibly touching and at one point she choked up, whispering a soft ‘I’m sorry.’ Honestly I credit this moment with saving my emotion. Her unexpected emotion made me chuckle, and helped me sort of get myself together. The rest of the ceremony was lovely and very touching. Honestly it was just perfect. Here’s our ceremony in a nut shell:
- Seating of the families – Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring (Bach)
- Wedding Party Porcessional – Canon in D (Pachelbel)
- Bridal Processional – Prelude in C Major (Bach)
- Welcome & Statement of Purpose
- Scripture Reading – 1 Corinthians, 1-8
- Responsorial Psalm – Blessed Are Those Who Love You
- Poem Reading – i carry your heart with me (cummings)
- Wedding Message
- Declaration of Consent
- Affirmation of Family & Friends
- Marriage Vows
- Exchanging of the Rings
- Lighting of the Unity Candle – Make You Feel My Love (Dylan)
- Blessing & Benediction – Go Ye Now in Peace (Eilers)
- Prounouncement & Recessional – Bugler’s Dream (Arnaud)
My favorite highlights of the ceremony:
I loved that we ended up doing traditional vows. Honestly as an incredibly emotional person even in rehearsal I was struggling to speak. I couldn’t believe how hard it was to choke out my vows (I honestly had somehow forgotten that I needed to say stuff). Saying the words that millions have said before me was pretty powerful. We initially were a bit sad that we didn’t write our own vows, but it ended up working perfectly for us.
One section we added into our ceremony that was a bit unique was something we called “family advice”. We asked all of our Aunts/Uncles/Grandparents (on both sides) to share their best marriage advice. It was optional, and we asked those who wanted to participate to email my Uncle their thoughts (50 words or less). My Uncle gathered all of the advice, added a little intro and closer and gave the most wonderful ‘reading’ of sorts at the wedding. We loved hearing from all of our family members, it was really special. Having my Uncle share it in one concise reading made it efficient, without losing the meaning.
Adam and I both love music. And conveniently enough we have a lot of talented friends that we could incorporate into the ceremony. We had the most lovely music in our ceremony from all the singing to my friend playing the flute, it was just perfect. We got so many comments on the caliber of singing in our ceremony, one of the perks of having friends who can sing! :)
We knew we wanted a way to greet all of our guests after the ceremony, but thought a receiving line would be a bit cumbersome for us. Our solution was to dismiss our guests ourselves after the ceremony. It was so smooth and allowed us to say hello to everyone. It took about 15 minutes, but gave us a chance to say hi and hug everyone. The beauty of the dismissal is that everyone is watching you (waiting themselves to be released), so they don’t talk long. With the whole congregation watching people typically just say congrats or other quick well wishes, instead of a conversation. Instantly we could greet everyone, but didn’t have to take 30-45 minutes for a receiving line. Efficiency at it’s best. I LOVED getting to see everyone right after the ceremony.
The Cookie Bar
Because we knew there would be a little bit of a wait while we dismissed guests, we had a cookie bar in the family room! It was perfect – it allowed guests an initial chance to mingle while waiting for us to finish dismissing. We put the Moms in charge of making the delicious cookies, which was fantastic. It gave people a chance to eat a little something before heading over to the reception as well. Once we finished dismissing the last guest we made our way to the family room for a bubbly send-off and went straight to the reception!